Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Torchwood and Doctor Who site by me
This Yahoo group is called Torchwood Tinders and Sonic Screwdrivers - a fan site of sorts, focusing on two British SciFi Television shows, namely Doctor Who (who tends to use a sonic screwdriver) and Torchwood (a quasi-government group, formed to deal with extra-terrestrial incursions in Earth).
The site address is:
http://www.friendster.com/group/tabmain.php?gid=1249024
I still need to discover how to integrate photos and other things to make the site more attractive, and I still need a way to further populate the site with interested parties willing to discuss both shows.
Should you stumble upon this entry and find the two TV shows interesting - or intriguing, why not drop by my site, and give a comment or two?
Monday, March 10, 2008
The type of advice I have been giving lately
Of late - since last week, I have been privy two conversations - one with a friend, another with a colleague and they both had female-related problems. I was, it would seem the intended recipient due to the fact that maybe they can and do trust me to be discreet... as both their situations would demand some discretion - hence the reason for my not being too detailed in mentioning any of these situations.
To jump to the point, here is what I can remember to be my thought process. First... both situations had to deal with love triangles (if these were ever the right way to call them), so in both cases, there was a third party being wronged. So my first - obvious suggestion, or reminder is that what they were in was wrong, and I was not playing the immorality card at all - heck, whether they were enjoying any coupling considerations, I shall not say... but even in a platonic style, it would be wrong to the third party involved - I say this loosely, since these two people I had such discussions were more likely to be the real third-party to said relationships.
So like I mentioned, I reminded of the lack of trust in such situations - they of course knew it, and would possibly justify things to themselves. But as I was mentioning the moral repercussions (again, not in a religiously moral stance - but in a natural order moral stance) I also seemed to notice the seeming reluctance for them to acknowledge the situation in such a manner - after, be it a one nighter affair or a longer lasting fling, the fact remains that they were doing something behind another's back or without another's knowledge - the fact that they were doing things in a hidden style - for some fear of discovery, signifies that they acknowledge the wrongness of the situation.
So, what did I learn form this? Well for one, I'm not a prude - let people fornicate for all I care, so long as they do it without betraying others... other than that, they're consenting adults, so they can do whatever they want - after all, I'm not in any moral obligation to stop them, and I did caution them.
Did this realization bother me? Nope. Other than the fact that others might be hurt - or feel betrayed, I said it was up to them. After all, when dispensing advice, one need be careful - fools won't heed it, and the wise won't need it.
Did my giving advice help them? I hope so - unsolicited or not, I wanted to remind them of the situation they were entering into. As a friend, I can do no less.
So why didn't I enter this in the Coaching blog? Well... in this case, though it may be considered a part of coaching, I was more focused on listening and giving advice... not coaching. It was not done in a professional manner, and I was not acting as a coach - but more a sounding board (as I suspect they wanted me to be).
I've imparted my 'wisdom'; only time will tell if it bears fruit or was wasted in this instance. Either way, like I said... I can't intervene any further - and I don't really care. I've mentioned how this will possibly affect them and other parties affected. I've reminded them about the karmic possibilities - what else can or should I do?
I cautioned right... I advised well. I weighed options, helped look at their situation in other angles and mentioned options. Other than that, I can't say more due to the limited exposure, or knowledge of each case - so the rest would be speculation (though in the latter, it seemed to be appropriate inference and deduction).
Good luck to them both, separately of course.
Pet Peeves
I am of course referring to those people who hog the road or not practice road courtesy by way of their just having a vehicle and damn the rest; who should watch out for them. These incompetents come in the form of either the raging bus driver, who cares not which lane he may be treading, or which lane he may be crossing - I say he, here in consideration of having seen, on very rare occasions, a female bus driver, and naturally may intentionally or uncaringly threaten to bump other vehicles should they not watch out for the bus's long and large dimensions.
Then there are the jeepney drivers - as people from the Philippines can attest, these kinds of vehicles can almost be found plying every part of the city's thoroughfares. But the jeepney in itself is not the culprit - its also perhaps, the equally unimpressive, insensitive driver, who's only difference with the bus driver is the size of the vehicle they bring. These people ply the streets - hogging lanes as if they own it and not mindful if they stay there for more than 15 minutes, all the while blocking others from moving forward.
On rarer occasions - though it may also be because they are not allowed to ply the major streets, we have the tricycles and pedicabs who also at times like to hod the lanes, unmindful that they block other faster vehicles from possibly overtaking in a proper manner, due to their unmindful style of driving or pedalling... and be careful, since some of them are ignorant of the meaning of signalling, whether by hand or by signal lights. One wonders if they even know some road courtesy.
But these tri-wheeled vehicles are less reckless than some people plying the streets on motor bikes as they drive through with reckless abandon and are likewise unmindful of traffic situations where some cars yield to offer other cars the right of way to move or turn in intersections. Instead, it seems some of these drivers only have two actions and either move fast or move faster. Sometimes it is ironic that they hog the entire road when they can easily stay a little to the side to allow for faster vehicles to pass them without fanfare - but would be the first to zig and zag in densely populated streets, unmindful of their reckless cutting ways.
This does not of course exempt other vehicles - cars, vans or the likes, with drivers who likewise were in some past (and I won't be surprised if it was a past life if they also drove the same way) a reckless bus, jeepney, taxi or motorcycle driver.
Little surprise that others can get road rage - more so those that ply and drive in a mindful and courteous manner. Simply put, the streets have seemingly gone to the dogs - and this can be attested to the seemingly unavailability - or uncaring attitude of traffic enforcers (another story can be said about them too), and without enforcement, we have chaos. In order to survive this concrete jungle's manic drivers, one has to either drive extra careful or adapt a more aggressive attitude and be armed with an equal amount of tricks - basically 'push-backs' to let these pushy drivers know that you are not one to be pushed around.
I've heard before - from some foreigners, that you would have to be crazy to drive in the Philippines, and seeing how the collective madness of the street seems to play out - i would have to reluctantly agree.
To be fair, there are drivers in such profession that seem to epitomize great character, upbringing and even courtesy while driving... but these people are more the exception to the rule, and I would consider it a miracle when I meet one of these rare breed of drivers handling a public transport.
So what can one think of when faced with these crazies? Well for one, are you willing to fight fire with fire? Are you just willing to let another one go? ... and if so, how many more?... how long before you say 'enough!'? Would it be worth your while to stoop to their level? Of course not. Would you win in an altercation? Most of the time, these aggressive a-holes will suddenly become meek when they realise they can't pay for damages their recklessness incurred. So where's the justice? Nope... one has to just bear with this stupidity and check one's self for any like-minded stupid action. Its not a case of right or wrong here, its a case of self-preservation... both in time, sanity and grief.
The problem is, some of these reckless drivers rely just on that fact. They don't care that they can't pay for their recklessness - nope. They count on the fact that you know its not worth it, so they get away with their arrogance.
Like I said before... I really wonder why these questionably educated (if they are educated at all) reckless public transport or private drivers (again, of which not every driver fits into) are still around - you'd think that Darwin's natural selection process would have removed them from the gene pool already. Ah well... maybe next week.
Tuesday, March 04, 2008
Podcasts - a new learning dimension or entertaining medium?
- 60 second Science
- Amazing Comicast
- Budget Health Nut
- Business Week
- Comic Geek Speak
- DC Comics
- Digital Photography Tips
- Discovery Channel Video
- Doctor Who Podshock
- Golf Smarter
- I read Comics
- Joel Osteen
- Leo Laport - The Tech Guy
- LSAT - Logic in Everyday Life
- Make it So - a Star Trek Podcast
- Marvel Podcast
- Ragingbullets
- 10th Wonder Poscast
- TPN: The Digital Photography Show
- WNYC Radio Labs
and this is by no means a compete list - just the ones I currently have in my iPod. Aside from this, I listen to French lessons, a sexy teacher for words and more.
I find time to listen to the podcasts when I'm waiting, rarely when I'm driving - unless I find a proper speaker or interface with the car stereo, when I'm walking from one building to another - in other words, those usual time eaters that I don't notice, but do nowadays since I find time to listen during those in-between moments. I listen when I'm waiting for my next conduct.. when I'm waiting for my participants to finish their activities.
My worry is that this is seriously eating into my reading time - and yet, if I get audio books, thats still getting the contents of a particular book - but rather than read, I'm listening... which is a good thing too, since I sometimes forget my reading glasses.
Just to let you know how I sometimes multi-task (assuming focusing is not that necessary), I am entering these words while I'm listening to a podcast. How about that?
If you've not yet embraced the world of podcasts, well... in case you finally get an iPod (or some other MP4 player), you might want to give this a try. Your problem - like mine, would literally be wading through the options available - and should you not find your area of interest, well why not create your own podcast as well? Join the ranks, fill a niche... get like minded folks to join you. Me? I'm still enjoying the experience too much.

